Authored by Phyllis King Phyllis will be contributing to www.Soulscode.com on a regular basis Her latest article "Love is more than what the Bachlorette is selling," is available Here Index of Articles: Master the Inside Game and Succeed in the Outside World The Price of Poverty, The Energy of Life, The Economics of Spirituality, Diaries of a Reluctant Psychic, Is it My Job to Find Osama Bin Laden? Master the Inside Game and Succeed in the Outside World Published in Self Growth We live in a time when automation, technology and tools of convenience dominate our lives. How quickly can we get from point A to point B? How clear can our cell phone connection be? Can we surf the internet while we’re on the train going to work? How fast is our internet speed? Our lives have turned into repeating cycles of how much we can get and how fast we can get it. I think technology is wonderful. I have always enjoyed using it. These tools are very useful. Yet, they are all part of the external world experience. We are losing touch of our internal world experience. We are spiritual beings having a physical experience. Not the other way around. When we forget that, and identify only with the physical, we cut ourselves off from the highest form of technology there is or ever will be….God consciousness. Lately, as time continues to expand and accelerate, I speak to people all the time who are experiencing high levels of anxiety, worry and frustration at unparalleled levels to what I saw even 15 years ago. My counsel is often around stopping the noise from the external. When the noise of the external…i.e. technology, ambition, commitments, taxes, traffic, body image, etc… dominate our perspective we disconnect ourselves from our power source. We literally get in the way of what it is we say we want….happiness, well being, prosperity, and love. In a recent PBS special Wayne Dyer said it beautifully when he talked about the most important relationship we have in life. It is not with ourself. It is our relationship to Source…that relationship helps us reveal ourselves to ourselves. I see it everyday in my life and in my practice. When we master the inside game, the outside world lands at our feet. I think of it a lot like the movie the Matrix. In the first installment, at the end of the move Keanu Reeves finally “gets it”, and suddenly the Matrix is at his control. His vibration is so much more rapid than that of the Matrix that he actually has to slow down to work within it. As you approach each day…REMEMBER who you are. Remember the true matrix you are living in. You are God. God is in your DNA. When you work from that perspective back, life takes on a very different view. One day, you will not have a body any longer. You are energy. Energy does not die. It only changes form. The energy that lives on is the essence of you. Your God consciousness. Put your attention there..on the infinite nature of universal consciousness. You will experience unlimited peace and contentment. Put gasoline on that fire. Not on the fire of the external. I promise you life will take on a completely different perspective. Love and light, The Price of Poverty published by Self Growth.com So often we think of poverty and lack in the first person. “I don’t have enough to pay for ... (fill in the blank). “I can't change jobs, or start my own business because (fill in the blank). “I can't do that seminar because ... (fill in the blank).” We justify why we stay stuck, and make it very plausible. Smart people are the biggest offenders. We are adept at creating on the physical level and we want to control the nonphysical level. The art of working with the intangible is a “feeling” thing, not a “doing thing.” Feeling your power ... not getting power. Allowing ... not controlling. Trusting ... not worrying. Listening to your guidance ... not tuning it out. Our finances are always the easiest excuse we use to avoid our truth. Everyone “gets” that excuse. Like all excuses it is just that, an excuse. A deflection of the truth, to justify nurturing lack of self love, to feed the needs of the ego its necessary diet of fear. Without it ego loses its power ... much like a balloon that deflates when the air is let out. The consciousness of poverty, lack and not enough goes far beyond the individual, and their circumstance. All words and thoughts have a consciousness. When we feed the lack in our own consciousness we feed the consciousness of “collective” lack and poverty. It's like throwing one more piece of garbage along the roadside, and justifying that it doesn't really matter that we did that. What this really indicates is a consciousness of low self-worth. We dismiss our own value, and our own power. We negate that we are powerful mighty beings just by being born on the planet. When we do not have self-worth, we cannot be abundant and prosperous. We came from a consciousness that knows only love. When we diss-align ourselves with the truth of who we are, we experience separation from those vibrations in the form of poor relationships, limited financial well being, and even poor health. In other words, you can't "diss" yourself, and expect to attract abundance. The price of poverty is that we feed the very consciousness we do not want to have in our lives. We make that consciousness more accessible to everyone as we help grow it with our own thoughts. That is the big “game” that gets played on our planet right now. That the external is the ultimate reality. This is the disease of duality that everyone on this planet is working on. Earth is a learning ground. This is the place we practice trust. This is the place we learn our inner truths. This is the place we fine-tune our vibration, so that when we return to abundant essense we can remain at the higher vibration to experience the benefit of that awareness. If we don't raise our vibration while we are on the planet, we will surely come back, and try again. This isn't a right or wrong situation. Source does not judge us. Source does not know how to judge. It is simply love. We will most certainly judge ourselves when we compare ourselves to ourselves at the culmination of our growth experience here on Earth school. Before you dismiss the power of the intangible, consider the price of poverty and the consciousness of lack. Choose your thoughts, and your words carefully. What you give your attention to is what you will bring into your life. Practice, practice, practice. If you choose to believe in the finite laws of life, you will receive finite limited results in your experience. If you choose to believe in the infinite possibilities of life, then you will be tapping into limitless possibilities in your space. Challenge your perspective. Use your free will wisely. Will be published in a new book: Wake Up and Live the Life You Love... The Energy of Life At times my life has read like a struggle for survival, as have many lives. The challenges in my life have included loneliness, betrayal and rejection by many I held most dear. As I lived through these events, I developed strength, courage and love. With courage I faced my fears. With strength I remained true to myself. With love I experienced renewal. As an incest survivor, I know a lot about control, abuse of power and fear. The person who abused me, and the people who allowed it to continue, were all people with lives veiled in fear. Over time, as I healed, it became difficult to hate these people although the injuries I experienced at their hands altered my life and personality forever. Why is it I don’t hate these people? Moreover why is it that I send love to them? What I came to learn through my healing process is that all our experiences contribute to the totality of our spirit and consciousness. It is ‘I” who make the difference in how experiences shape my life. No person or event has the power to choose how I create my life. No injury can stop me from realizing my potential. The only person who can stop me from realizing my potential is me. The path to success for me lay in forgiveness. Forgiveness led me to compassion for my victimizers and the darkness in their hearts. Compassion taught me that it is only when all people are whole and complete will humanity live in peace and prosperity. I have met many people who define their lives with a victim mentality, consciously or unconsciously. The position of victim is power-less. You cannot create a prosperous life from a victim position. The lie about “they did it to me” is really a mask for fear that says “Am I valid? Do I matter? Can I believe in myself?” The “victim” is afraid that the lie is true. Victims stay entrenched in the illusion of comfort and connection, even when the comfort or connection is empty and painful. From childhood, I was blessed to know there was more to life than what I saw, touched, tasted or smelled. I held on to my center tightly. Even when no one else would tell me I mattered, somehow I knew I did matter, and that one day my value would be reflected back to me. Through all my trials and tribulations I listened to my inner voice, my conscience, my connection to Source. I learned that it was the noise of life, that most often contributed to my errors in judgment. So, I learned how to center myself. I learned how to tell the difference between a truth and a lie. Our bodies are natural lie detectors, if we will listen. More accurately, our bodies our truth detectors. They practically humm and buzz when truth is spoken. We feel peaceful when truth is present. Too often we turn away from the inconvenience of truth. We must always embrace truth without judgment. If we want to create a free flowing relationship with Source, we have to move away from the concepts of good, bad, better, worse. The events, relationships and circumstances we experience must be viewed neutrally. When neutrality cannot be gained, we must practice the art of “re-framing.” We must frame every experience in such a way that we garner a positive position about our circumstance. In truth it is an energy game. We must actively participate in managing the energy of life. If we judge energy, we create filters through which we must try to receive, or through which our contributions must navigate to reach manifestation. Energy like truth is just “what it is.” The ability to embrace that reality empowers each of us to create the landscape of our lives. People may ask me “how can you say incest is positive?” Incest, as a stand alone act, is not positive. I chose to frame my reactions to it in a way that caused me to become a better person and a stronger person owing to the experience. I developed aspects of myself I might not have ever considered. My choice was to remain open rather closed. I chose to believe in self, rather than disbelieve. I chose to believe there is more to life than the physical. My consciousness expanded. My heart expanded. I came to know that only those in pain hurt others. But further I learned that if I could contribute to the healing of any other being I am doing a service to myself and humanity. My answer to all my dilemmas in life is to expand my awareness, my love, my compassion, my strength, and to spread it in as many directions as possible, including the direction of those who have caused me the greatest injury. As I have become accomplished at re-framing and giving, the joy in my life has increased exponentially. I feel connected to a life purpose. I have a knowing-ness that I am living the life I am meant to live. There is no question I am fulfilling my potential. If I were to break it down, my formula for personal success lay in the following seven steps: Belief in self, no matter what. You matter. Your unique opinion and ideas are vital our planet. You have a contribution to make that no other person can make. It is not more important than any other contribution. Yet without your unique stamp, humanity will not fully prosper. Learn to listen to self and to what is not said – Learn to turn down the noise of life so that you can hear your guidance, your truth and the insights that come to us through the grace of synchronicity. Honor and protect the truth – This is all we have as spirit in the physical body. It is the key to establishing your relationship to Source and to finding your life’s purpose. Embrace forgiveness – It’s an energy game. To keep your energy clean and open release painful experiences, and clear the way for those who have injured you to find the light in their own lives. Move away from a judgment mentality - Judgment is an impediment to spiritual growth. Re-frame experiences to keep yourself in a position of power. Judgments impede our ability to give and our ability to receive. Spread love and generosity of spirit without pause. The ability to send loving vibrations out to all people at all times is a gift to you, and to the planet. Once you connect to your purpose, you earn the responsibility and the blessed joy of contributing to the evolution of humanity. It is a gift to give. Enjoy your life – Life is work and challenge, but is also to be treasured and enjoyed. This is the ultimate act of appreciation to Source for your life. Just as an artist creates a stunning work of art for humanity to appreciate, as we enjoy our life, our work of art, Source receives joy from the positive expression of our experience. Published in SelfGrowth.com, December 2008 The Online Self Improvement Encyclopedia Accepted for publication in Wisdom Magazine in January 2009 One of the country's largest free holistic publications The Economics of Spirituality A wise friend of mine recently shared a mantra with me that she uses to remain conscious of her creative process. It goes like this, “ORDER IT UP!” What order it up means, is that every second of every day your thoughts, words and actions dictate what you are “ordering” from the universe. Think of it like you are ordering from a menu of experiences. The amazing part about “ordering” is that you can actively participate in ordering your life, or you can abdicate your ordering process to another, by consenting to their choice for you. Or, you can resign yourself to a random process, and let the chips fall where they may. What this ordering tool really accomplishes is to keep you conscious. The economic turmoil we are experiencing right now is not the problem in our lives. Economic turmoil is the symptom of our spiritual bankruptcy. Suze Orman said it the best when she said “PEOPLE FIRST, MONEY SECOND, THINGS THIRD”. We have not lived the correct order to create a prosperous financial condition. We can blame Wall Street, the mortgage industry, George Bush, Bill Clinton, whomever. Ultimately, we all have contributed or agreed to participate consciously or unconsciously in the financial condition of our lives and our country. Until our economic condition reached crisis proportion, we were uninterested in evaluating our intentions or our creative contributions. I have compassion for those experiencing loss. It is no fun to lose. Clearly, many of us still prefer to learn through discomfort. As a culture, we have had an insatiable appetite for products and lifestyle expansion. We have lived outside of our means. We have been sleeping through our lives with no regard to the ramifications of the energetic contributions we have made to our families, our communities and our country. In my view this is a blatant definition of spiritual bankruptcy. Reckless disregard of our intentions and our contributions to creative force. In terms of the energy of prosperity and money, the universe is indiscriminate about who receives prosperity. Whoever can play the energy game effectively gets prosperity. You don’t necessarily have to be a good person, a generous person, or a caring person. One way or another you have to have a sincere and honest relationship with money. One thing is clear to me. In order to create money you must care about it, and you must care about yourself. Those two pieces are non negotiable energetically. When Suze Orman said “treat money like a cherished friend” she meant it. You really have to do that to create a prosperous vibration in your space. People who love self, even ego centric individuals often have prosperity. They understand consciously or unconsciously about the focus and commitment to self necessary to be prosperous. Recently I saw Rush Limbaugh on a Barbara Walters special. I have nearly no ideological similarities with him. Barbara Walters posed the question to him “here we are in a recession, and people are losing their homes, and jobs, and you just received a $100 million dollar signing bonus, and a salary of $38 million a year. How do you explain that?” His response was “I choose not to participate in the recession.” Although I don’t resonate with Rush Limbaugh’s ideology, he clearly has it right when it comes to money. He wants it, he believes he deserves, and he will claim it as his right. He remains unaffected by the external. One step in the process that many metaphysicians skip over is the step of actively claiming what is theirs. We forget to actively work the energy in our space to “claim our good.” Creating prosperity is not a passive process. The energy of prosperity moves very fast. It is very open. Passiveness is not open, or fast. It resonates on the same level with apathy. Lack of caring. Be awake, and be aware of what is in your creative mechanism. Be ready to shift, adjust, expand and change as necessary. Another famous speaker is Joel Olsteen. He is an evangelical Christian minister. Again, I do not agree with him ideologically on many issues. However, when it comes to prosperity, he gets it right. He says “God wants us to be prosperous and have wealth.” “What I tell people is rather than putting your energy into your worries about your condition, put your energy into expecting God to provide for you, because that’s what “she/he” wants to do for you.” Just because we are metaphysicians and we understand much about social justice and why expansive vibrations are important, we need to work on remembering to ground our prosperity space. We have to claim it. We have to consciously open ourselves to it. We have to expect Source to provide it to us. In the process we have to love ourselves enough to believe we deserve it. Look at your energetic life as a mathematical equation. If you only have 100 units of energy per day, and you spend 80 units of energy worrying, and fearing your circumstances then how much energy can you possibly have to create prosperity? Take the time to do the math in your own life. Do the math regularly. Practice “ordering it up” in your life to remain conscious. Our relationship with Source is always one of contribution. One exchange of energy for another. Be conscious of this relationship. This year, 2009, when the energy of prosperity begins to stabilize again take the steps to ensure you are creating what you truly want to manifest in your life and in the world. Look at your creations/experiences. They will tell you where your true intentions lie. Clean up your creative mechanism. Stay awake in your life. Be conscious. You will live more authentically, happily and prosperously. Have a wonderful New Year. Order up a good one! I look forward to talking and sharing with you over the coming year. Phyllis Published in Wisdom Magazine, October 2008 One of the country's largest free holistic publications and Published on SelfGrowth.com, August 2008 The Online Self Improvement Encyclopedia Diaries of a Reluctant Psychic As my mother's mouth moved to utter the words "Women can't be ministers" I felt a dagger rush into my heart. I was wounded in a way that changed my view of life forever. At 15 one is quite impressionable. One expects encouragement from a role model. It doesn't really matter anymore. I am a minister. All things happen in their own time. The information my mother shared with me was important. In many ways it was a gift. Now, I understand that all conflicts in our relationships are those we have chosen to participate in for the benefit of our own growth and healing. Had that wound never occurred, the opportunity for me to distance myself from the toxicity of that situation would have certainly been delayed. My growth and progress became escalated by this experience. Most of my life, as a psychic, has been a combination of two lifestyles. One, hiding my psychic ability. Two, embracing my psychic ability. I've often hid because of two types of attention I receive. One, I live in a world where at any given moment in time I can find any number of people who will tell me I am full of crap, a fraud, crazy, and for those trying to be generous, just misguided. Or, I have people who want to befriend or utilize my services for free, or devote themselves to me as if I am guru. They expect me to know everything about everything, because I do have some extra sensory perception that exceeds their own. They are looking for magic. What is one to do when they see dead people, auras, and have out of body experiences when they are wide awake? What would you do? How would you share that information? These are the questions I have lived with my entire life, and have learned to strike a balance with for three decades. It has only been in the last few years that I have finally embraced who I am, without fear of outside criticism, or relentless fanatics. Part of it is the old saying, "where ever you are, there you go". I came to a point in my life where I simply couldn't avoid it any longer. A moment came in my life when I realized that although I had been CEO, a Marketing Director, and a Human Resource Manager, the only thing that made me feel like me, and as if I was truly making a contribution, was my psychic work. I finally realized that if something is who you are, it simply is who you are, no matter how many people tell you it isn't you. A belief in self regardless of external stimulation is clearly key to growth. Amazingly, the moment I embraced the truth of who I am unconditionally, doors opened for me effortlessly. I felt happier than I had in a very long time. In short order I forgot everything about the external experience of being psychic, and just began to live the spiritual beauty of having an awareness that is slightly elevated all the time. I began to see a huge increase in my intuition, and my ability to help others. I began to experience more joy in my life than I ever knew possible. Success always seemed to elude me. Now I saw it everywhere. Now as I sit here looking back on my years as a reluctant psychic, I wonder what took me so long to get here. As a I psychic, I know that all things come in their own time, and when the time is right. I am no different than all the people I read. I'm just blessed to have a job that deals in the intangible and spiritual truth of who we all are. Here's to life, to self, to embracing the truth of who you are, no matter who tells you you're crazy!   Published on SelfGrowth.com, September 2008 The Online Self Improvement Encyclopedia Is it My Job to Find Osama Bin Laden? I recently listened to some debunkers and skeptics of psychics on Larry King.  They were discussing the rules and regulations for what makes a psychic valid. Before I go further, since when has it become all right for someone who is not expert in my field to tell me what makes me an expert in my field?  I have spent 29 years of my life understanding energy, and the unseen part of life. I typically don’t waste my time with debunkers.  Occasionally I get tired of being attacked by some stranger who doesn’t “get it”, or doesn’t care enough to educate themselves to make an informed critique. They feel justified in lambasting something or someone they don’t understand because its suits the purpose of their ego. Back to the Larry King program. One person on the panel indicated that the information psychics offer is irrelevant and unnecessary. Further, that if a psychic were to be truly authentic and add value to the planet, why wouldn’t “they” find Osama Bin Laden? The person who made that statement was of a particular religious faith. If this person of God really understood God, spirituality or psychics, they would know that the benefit of the work is what happens internally, not externally. It is the internal changes that manifest the external changes. A simple law of nature that has eluded this learned spiritual individual. I suppose if I wanted to put my energy into finding missing persons, including Osama Bin Laden, I could do that. I would much rather put my energy into validating the truth of who we are as spirit and empowering people to have more authentic contributions to the planet. I’m one of these crazy people who “thinks” globally and acts locally. More over, when we become empowered to create authentically from the part of ourselves that is timeless, that is where inspiration, miracles and insight are born. Perhaps through a spiritual side effect, a metaphysician would indeed find Osama Bin Laden. How do I know? I don’t. What I do know is that it’s the marriage of authentic self to Source that empowers us individually, and globally. In this marriage is where real power takes hold. In this ego driven culture, there are those who want to believe that “we have all the power”. These people don’t even get Awareness 101. We are co-creators, and thoughts are things. Everything is energy. Yet, the ego driven debunkers on Larry King were shouting at the top of their lungs, saying nothing of value, and demonstrating a lack of spiritual awareness in action. Finally, is it not the responsibility of our government to find Osama Bin Laden? The government said it was their number one objective. The government has been unable to find Osama Bin Laden. Is our government invalid? Why are psychics held to a different standard? It’s because the misinformed expect us to work magic. We are fortune tellers after all, right? Wrong. We’re people with some heightened awareness who have personal experience with the intangible becoming tangible. To date we do not have technology that can analyze it, break it down, and serve it up in some way, the ego driven need to see it. We can't bring out a bible and say, “see I’m following the rules”. We are following the rules of the God of our heart. We let our conscience lead the way. In the world of the ego driven self-righteous, there is no room for conscience. In any industry you have amazing people, and incompetent people and everything in between. The psychic industry is the same. The only way you will know if a psychic is valid is if you validate it for yourself. There is no other way. You can’t read a book, an article or anything else to make it real for yourself. You have to rely on your own heart and conscience through experience. One size (psychic) does not fit all. It is the path and the need of each individual to discover their own truth. One person may think a psychic they visited was nothing short of AMAZING. Someone else going to the same psychic will think they were TERRIBLE. That is because this is a spiritual practice. Sometimes read-ee’s are not ready to hear truth. Or the psychic interprets the information incorrectly.   Or, they simply were not a match. The message here is this: if you don't know what you're taking about, if you haven't spent at least 20 years delving into metaphysics,  keep your mouth shut. There's enough noise pollution in the world already. FYI, for the record it's not my job to find Osama Bin Laden. Interested in publishing these articles? Please contact Phyllis for copyright and publishing permissions phyllis@phyllisking.net